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Deck the Halls

There’s something about the holiday season that just makes me happy. It’s weird. It’s like I can smell the cheer and good will in the air or something.

Since the turkey has been properly respected, we dragged out our decorations yesterday and hunted down the perfect tree from the garden center at Lowe’s and trimmed it during Emma’s nap time. And then we spent approximately the next however many hours there are between when she woke up yesterday and when we’ll untrim it and remove it from the house after Christmas telling her not to touch it and redirecting her away from it.

Yes, I’m speaking of future events as if they’ve already happened. Because that’s what’s going to happen.

But our house is a little more cheery now despite the chaos and I love it. I understand why people leave their tree up all the time. Pretty trees and the tiny lights and the memories behind the ornaments just bring on the happy for me. (Also they’re probably lazy, so I’m at least less lazy than the people who never take down their trees.)

I tried to take some photos of Emma with a strand of lights last night before bed. I’m determined to master this kind of shot this year, so there will no doubt be more of these in the future.

I also took some photos of a few of our ornaments and then played around with the Hiller preset I downloaded from Clickin Moms when they gave away a preset trio.

Here are a few of my shots from yesterday.

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The Kind Of Mom I Wish I Was

You know when your morning starts off on the wrong foot and you’re certain the entire day is shot because of it? That happened this morning.

Joshua and Emma woke up at 6 and it was immediately clear that they had alllllllllllll the energy. (How do kids do that? How do they wake up going 90 miles an hour?) Dan and I just sort of stared at each other wide-eyed like “OMG! Whose kids are these? How!? Why? Is it too early to drink?”

And then he left for work and I was left with the two wide-open children. And no coffee. And did I mention I was running on about 4.5 hours of sleep?

Basically my morning was a breeding ground for a terrible afternoon. Sometimes I can just feel those days coming. Emma and I went about our day, going to her 18 month check-up, putting her down for a nap, working, and then we went to get Joshua.

From the minute I picked him up from school I could tell he was tired. Overtired. I probably knew he was overtired even before I dropped him off this morning because of all of the bouncing off the walls he was doing.

He was due for a check-up with the orthopedist to take his cast off, so we made the drive to the office, in afternoon school traffic, running late. A recipe for my anxiety which is already not in a great place.

For days he’s been saying he doesn’t want them to take his cast off because he’s old enough to remember the pain he was in the night he broke his arm. He’s scared of it. I can’t blame him. I would be scared, too.

But they took his cast off anyway, and he doesn’t understand that his arm isn’t broken anymore. It’s sore from the fact that he hasn’t been able to use it for a month. His range of motion is wonky and everything just feels wrong for him. And, remember, he’s overtired.

We went to Target to get a “Hooray! No cast!” toy and a cake pop and came home. I started dinner, they were screaming at each other, and then he was crying. He had put weight on his arm getting onto the couch and it hurt.

I just knew that tonight required a different sort of me. All of the circumstances causing him to cry were mostly outside of any of our control and something about that brought me, I don’t know, peace? Clarity?

Patience.

I hugged him and told him it was okay to cry if he was hurt or sad. It is always okay to cry. So he cried.

We kept meltdown after meltdown at bay (barely) from dinner until bath time and from bath time onward, it was pretty clear we were headed for a rough evening.

He cried because he couldn’t take his pants off. He cried because he didn’t want to get his arm wet. He cried because because because.

His poor eyes were red-rimmed from all the crying. (And the tired.)

This is the sort of thing, by the way, that often makes me want to glue a set earplugs in place permanently. The crying over every.single.thing. I’m okay with it until I’m suddenly just not okay with it anymore. There’s a slow boil that happens in my brain when it starts and it goes until my frutration just bubbles over. (I’m pretty sure I’m not alone in that regard, right mamas?)

Knowing that Dan also has a limit, I tagged in for bedtime. At first Joshua cried harder and louder and I told him I was going to lay down next to him and hold him. He could cry if he needed to, but I was going to lay down and play with his hair.

He scooted over to give me some room and then scooted back over to me. Exactly like I knew he would.

He cried. He cried some more. He tried to get comfortable and hurt his arm by stretching it out too far and cried harder. I just kept holding him.

Instead of willing him to go to bed and fall asleep so I could go and do nothing at all of any importance, I slowed down and snuggled him while he cried from being tired and sore because it’s what he needed. There was nowhere else I wanted to be.

I was the kind of mom I wish I always was.

Down By The River

The kids and I took a little Labor Day road trip to visit my family down by the Georgia coast. Saturday we had a big family cookout. (So much food.) It was good to get away for a few days and see aunts and uncles and cousins we don’t see very often. It felt good to be around family since I’ve felt so alone lately.

This post is going to be word-light, picture-heavy, but I’m still recovering from three nights of no-co-sleeping with Emma and driving 5 hours and being out of our element all weekend. (And plus, Orange is the New Black on Netflix.)

Yay pictures!

I channeled my inner the grumbles to snap and edit a couple of photos of the river with my phone. This is the view from my aunt’s porch.

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I feel like a weekend where I can sit on her porch and read books and drink coffee or wine is in order. It’s so quiet and peaceful back where she lives.

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Monday morning before we left, the river was still up, so we walked down to the dock to look. Joshua wanted to see if he could see any fish and Emma goes where Joshua goes whenever she can.

We made it 17 months without a busted lip and Emma busted hers twice while we were there. It was a good run.

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Joshua has decided he likes making his “normal” face for pictures. Here’s his normal face. Or maybe it’s his disappointed face from not seeing any fish. That’s possible too.

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We stuck our feet in the water for a minute. It was warmer than bath water which I wasn’t expecting. Joshua and Emma didn’t seem to mind at all.

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Sticking her feet in the water wasn’t enough for Emma. So we stripped her down to her diaper and dunked her in. She loved it so much I’m surprised we got her out.

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I know Joshua and Emma had a great time staying with my aunt since Emma kept crawling up into her lap to snuggle and Joshua asked her to put him to bed the last night we were there. I think she enjoyed the company, too.

While I’m glad to be home and back to our normal, it’s always good to get away for a bit, you know?

Hope everyone had a great Labor Day weekend.

31 letters 31 Weeks

In an attempt to feel sort of normal and get life closer to the track again, I sat down at our hand-me-down dining room table last Monday morning with a cup of coffee and a good pen to write and mail out 4 more letters for the #31letters31weeks “campaign.”

31 Letters, 31 Weeks, Finding Walden

I almost hate calling this a campaign because it feels like I’m asking people to do something. I write my letters and post my photos and hope people will join in with me and start mailing real letters, but I can’t make anyone do that and it won’t crush my world if no one else does it.

I mean, it will? But it won’t. I don’t know how to explain it.

I wanted to start this because I wanted to write more letters. I didn’t expect that others would really want to do this, too.

I mean, I hoped they would. But I didn’t bank on it.

And then I checked the mail this weekend to find a return letter from one of the recipients of last week’s love and realized that this thing has potential. This thing is bearing fruit.

31 letters 31 weeks, Finding Walden

What my return letter in the mail tells me, and what many of you have said on Instagram/Facebook/Twitter, is that you ARE interested in doing this which quite frankly rocks my world. I love that so many of you want to join this letter-love-bombing thing I’m doing.

Except I don’t want it to just be a back and forth between you and me. I mean, if you want in on my list, email me (miranda@findingwalden.com). I’m happy to add people.

But what I really want is for this to be bigger than just me. Like a parent who wants more for her children than what she had/was/is. Make sense?

The trouble is I don’t exactly know how to go about accomplishing this because of privacy and the internet and people being weird.

(Not you. Or you. Maybe you. Probably not you, though.)

I would like to be able to connect people with others who want to send and receive letters. To act as a penpal conduit, if you will. But I’m kind of scared of 1) the potential scope of that and 2) the risks involved with giving out addresses to people we don’t exactly know. I mean, we know, but we don’t.

So.

Here’s what I’ve come up with for the rules of #31letters31weeks.

“They’re more like guidelines, really.”

  • Make a list. Create a list of people to whom you want to send letters. Maybe your list will have less than 31 people on it. Maybe it will have more. Maybe it will include people you know in your real world. Maybe it will include people you know online. Just make a list.
  • Seek out addresses. Maybe you’ll DM them on Twitter. Maybe you’ll IM them on Facebook. Or gchat. (People other than me use that, right?) Explain what you’re doing. If they’re not comfortable giving you their address, it’s okay. Move down your list.
  • Send your letters with no expectation of return. When I put my letters in the mail last week, I didn’t expect to get one back. I just wanted to mail my letters to put some goodwill out there in the Universe.
  • Tell me you’re participating. Mostly just because I’m nosy and want to know who out there is hitching a letter-writing wagon to mine. ;)
  • Use the hashtag. #31letters31weeks. “But Miranda,” you say, “I’m not sending 31 letters! I’m sending 45! And I’m doing it all this week!” Okay, well, first you’re WAY more ambitious than me. Second, the hashtag unifies the campaign. That’s all.

I’m really excited that people want to do this because I think that at the very least it makes us practice our handwriting.

(I can neither confirm nor deny whether Dan and I may or may not have busted out pens and paper and compared our cursive penmanship. Recently.)

At the best #31letters31weeks lifts someone’s spirits when they need it and you may not even know it.

It’s also fun. And the world could certainly use some more of that.

So, share this post and let people know what you’re doing. Facebook it. Tweet it. Pin it. IG it. Whatever.

Let people know you’re joining in.

Make your list. Send your letters. And let’s really start something.

One More Week

Just over a year ago, I turned in my letter of resignation and embarked on this journey of SAHMomming two kids. And now here I am, with only one week left with both of them here.

If Prufrock measured out his life in coffee spoons, in just one more week, I’m going to be measuring mine in summers. My time to influence his life, to make the kind of impact I hope to make, feels limited.

Joshua starts preschool on Monday and despite any (all) of the rough moments we’ve had in the past year, I’m really sort of sad about it.

He’s my sidekick. My best boy.

But he’s also growing up. And this is a reminder that my time with him, all of it, is dwindling. It’s going by so quickly in that blink-and-you’ll-miss-it way that only life really can.

The past year at home has been a long one. There have been days where everything went to pieces from the minute we all woke up and I’ve counted down to bedtime while every minute that ticked by on the clock felt like an eternity. There have been a lot of days. The ones that seem like they’ll never end.

But this past year has also been so incredibly short, made up of full days that were over as quickly as they began. Those were the days filled with love and laughter and those days have been the shortest ones. Those have been the days to make this year fly past us.

It’s funny how that happens. How the good and bad moments are their own time warps, each doing different things to our days and our lives.

In the balance of good and bad days of this past year, the good days have far outweighed the bad. And somehow I feel like I haven’t done enough to convey that, probably because I’ve been too busy living those good days, you know? I’ve been caught in the moments of happiness and I find it kind of hard to write about those moments. Mostly because I want to savor them, tuck them away and keep them in my heart to be pulled out when I need them.

And they’ve seemed…ordinary. The kind of days that few want to hear about because they’re just more of the same. A wash, rinse, repeat of regularity and comfort.

But there’s magic in an ordinary day. Magic that, for Joshua and me, is evolving. Again.

Joshua and I are always finding our way. Always.

We navigate these sometimes (often) rough waters of parenting and childhood together. Always together.

Now we’ll just have to do more with less time.

He’ll go off to navigate the preschool waters, without me, and I’ll be here finding my way with Emma, watching the clock until it’s time to pick him up.

Things are always changing with us.